I love Christian Abs. #lydiaafterdark
You know, a few months ago this dude friend of mine showed up to hang out with me all dejected. Over a couple of drinks he explained his long face — earlier that night, he’d been walking down the street behind this really cute girl, and when she looked back at him over her shoulder, he thought it was in interest and smiled at her. Now, this guy is tall and skinny, can most commonly be found in glasses and t-shirts scrawled across with math jokes, is kind to animals, considers himself a feminist. What he doesn’t consider himself is threatening, so he was surprised, confused, and even hurt by what happened next: the girl in front of him responding to his called greeting of, “Nice skirt,” by taking off down the darkened street in a dead run.
“Yeah,” I said, “she probably thought you were going to rape her.”
“But that’s not fair,” he said. “I’m a good person; I’d never rape anyone! How could she think that? She doesn’t even know me.”
Out here in the wilds of the internet, I often find myself making arguments about shit like feminism and rape culture unilaterally. For one thing, there’s so much (like, so much) out there arguing unilaterally against this shit that I feel it’s necessary; for another thing, ‘round these parts there’s a lot of people jumping to hostility when it’s painfully clear they don’t have a handle on all the facts. But I’m more lenient with the people in my real life, especially dudes like the one mentioned above. I’m willing to extend to them a patience that I wouldn’t with strangers on the internet, because they matter to me, and it matters to me that they understand. So when my friend sat there that night, whining over his beer and responding to my attempted explanations with, “But I’d love it if a girl smiled at me on the street, or even catcalled at me! Fuck, even if a dude did it, I’d be flattered,” I decided to spend some time thinking about how to clear things up for him. It took awhile, but I finally came up with a metaphor to get the job done:
Consider the bank.
This really informative and a good metaphor. What I like is that it’s not just a rant of why can’t you see my pov but its someone who took the time to really think about it in order to explain it to someone she cares about. Reading on the internet makes me feel really down about life because people seem to be really intent on airing their grievances (which is so understandable) and not on starting a conversation with the intent of finding solutions.
I’m going to take notes.
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“for the most part most people don’t even exist outside of (insert country name) and Western Culture (big giant conception that is meant to symbolize the foreign other despite the existence of soooo many others)…yeah but I have been fortunate enough to have been born from two “others” living in a county full of “others” traveling to meet many more “others” but still if you look at a map alone it seems only too obvious the diversity of humankind” — wise words from my friend Diana
So that settles it.
Watch GIF inventor Steve Wilhite accept his Lifetime Achievement Award.
Finally confirmed for me.
You know I just want a job so I can pay for my $25/month internet, eat chinese takeaway, and hit the $5 movies once a month. That is all I ask. All I need is a part-time minimum wage job in Los Angeles,CA and I will be a happy camper.
Please. Just give it to meh!!!
Why #FitchtheHomeless Backfires -
Here’s what homeless men and women really think of #FitchtheHomeless—in their own words.
This is important for so many reasons.